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Being Alone is Good: Thoughts on How To Be Single

Courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures

How to Be Single (2016)

Directed By: Christian Ditter

I wanted to watch this movie when it first came out in theaters but didn’t have time to watch. So when it came on HBO a couple days ago, I forced my sister to watch it with me. How To Be Single is the movie we 20-somethings and single people need in our lives.

Alice (Dakota Johnson) breaks up with her college boyfriend, Josh (Nicholas Braun) temporarily because she wants to be independent and experience what’s life outside a happy relationship. So she moves to New York City and becomes a paralegal.  She befriends her co-worker, Robin (Rebel Wilson) and the local bartender (Anders Holm) and experiences life as a young, independent adult.

In regards to the storyline, it’s downright relatable. I admit that I’m like Alice. I was in a similar situation as her. I had a boyfriend while in college and I felt like I missed out on a lot of things because of my relationship status. To be honest, I felt like I wasn’t my own person sometimes, and that’s one of the reasons why we broke up during the middle of my junior year in university (there were other reasons as well). Personally, I support Alice’s decision. She hasn’t experienced much of what life has to offer, and also I do think you need to be your own person first before heading into a serious relationship or commitment.

While watching this film, my sister and I couldn’t help but notice the strange time sequencing. The film would skip a large amount of time in order to move the story along. It makes sense as to why—you only have two hours to tell the story—but I do think  that these time jumps should be edited differently. While watching it, they sort of come up randomly to the point where you are getting used to the time setting for one scene, and then suddenly you are placed in a different time and have to adjust your viewing mindset. However, the time jumps kind of represent how we see time in our lives. In one way, we measure time with only the significant moments in our lives, good or bad. I do think that this movie truly emphasizes and executes that concept well.

Overall, though, it’s a must-watch and I’m totally going to suggest this to my friends because we are in the same situation as the characters in this film. I think the movie sends out a great message that we shouldn’t force ourselves to look for someone to cuddle or be in a relationship with. Love is something you don’t rush. You should enjoy the time you have being with people you care about friends and family for now. That special someone will come when it wants to whether you like it or not—that’s how love works.

As for me, after breaking up with my ex, I don’t regret it. I learned a lot about myself and the type of guy I want to be with. And that special guy will come eventually, but for right now, I’ll just enjoy the single life.

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