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A Critique On My Character: A Personal Story

The great thing about WordPress is that I have the power to moderate comments. Usually, I have positive comments and there are a few constructive criticism comments, but nothing too rude yet. Even if I have a rude comment, I wouldn’t let it break me. Lets just say that over the years, I have built some strong armor when it comes to people’s opinions on my writing.

However, this post isn’t about a person’s rude comment on my writing. Instead, it is a comment that I heard from a friend about my personality. I’m not going to name names, but I just wanted to write this post because I found this guy’s opinion of me amusing. He used to be an acquaintance of mine, but now he is just “somebody I used to know.” 

I won’t give you all of the details, but I remember one time, I was chatting with this guy on Facebook. He was interested in my old roomie/home girl, and wanted me to put in a good word for him. Well I was tired of his constant remarks on my friend, so I told him directly, “She isn’t interested so stop trying.” I may have come off a little too strong, but I was giving him honest advice: stop wasting your time on her and move on to some other girl. He took it too hard I think because after that conversation, he never talked to me ever again.

Well a few days ago, my friend was talking to this guy on Facebook, and apparently he said some not so nice things about me.

Me no think so. She has memory. Maybe. She can gain knowledge, she can know sh** only of taught or told or informed, she can’t think. She can’t generate hypotheses based off snippets of knowledge. She can’t contextually figure things out even when it involves her major. So, I could be wrong. But I’m not convinced she can think. Besides me no want. She no gorgeous like you. In my opinion.

Yes, those were the exact words that my friend told me he wrote.

Now, everyone is entitled to their own opinions and those opinions should be respected, but that doesn’t mean it should be accepted.

I admit I may not be the brightest person, but I do know some things. Yes, my memory game is pretty strong. Some of my blogging friends get surprised when I remember small details about them that they mentioned on their blog posts.

Now apparently, I can’t think. He claims, “She can gain knowledge, she can know sh** only of taught or told or informed, she can’t think.” If I can’t think, I must not be human. I must be a robot. In fact, readers, this must mean you are reading the thoughts of a robot. But wait, how can I have thoughts when I am a robot. He said, I “can’t think.” Also, I realized that I can breathe, my internal organs are functioning properly, and my heart is beating. So that must mean, I am not a robot, but a human.

He further states, “She can’t generate hypotheses based off snippets of knowledge. She can’t contextually figure things out even when it involves her major.” I am going to break these sentences apart, and analyze them. So I “can’t generate hypotheses based off snippets of knowledge.” Well I guess that means my science teachers taught me wrong on how to use the scientific method. It doesn’t hurt to try to learn how to make a “real” hypothesis though. I’m going to do it right now, watch me. I am going to give a hypothesis based on this small piece of text I heard from my friend. I assume that he is upset and thinks of me this way because I completely shut him down by saying that he doesn’t have a chance with my friend. Will I ever know if my hypothesis is correct? Probably not. But I just want you all to know that I attempted to make a hypothesis.

Let me reiterate the next sentence, “she can’t contextually figure things out even when it involves her major.” Hold on, let me scroll through and read some of the blog posts where I wrote about novels, anime, films and manga. In my opinion, I think this statement is false. If you read some of my blog posts, I provide some interesting thoughts and perspectives on story lines, characters, and also core values. Furthermore, I try to point out some subtle details or instances that go unnoticed by the general reader.

Lastly, he makes it clear that I am ugly, physically as evident by the words, “no gorgeous.” I admit I am no super model. I’m just your average, normal young woman, and you know what, I am perfectly fine and comfortable in my own skin. Plus, I don’t need a man to tell me I’m beautiful.

When my friend read this comment about me, she was deeply angry and upset. She wanted to use profane language on him. However, I told her not to because it isn’t worth it. Instead, I helped her write a thoughtful reply stating how she felt disrespected and hurt over his comment, and that by doing so, she is going to terminate their “acquaintance relationship” by “unfriending” him on Facebook. I unfriended him as well, because why should I be friends with someone who doesn’t even like me. This was the first time we both unfriended someone. It was indeed a historic moment.

Now, readers, what lesson can you get from this story of mine? The lesson I got was if you like someone, you shouldn’t disrespect your crush’s closest friends or family. If you do, he or she will disown you faster than the speed of light.  Also, this just further proves the statement: “bros before h*** and sisters before misters.”

Also, readers, you may be wondering, why am I writing about this on my blog? Doesn’t this just add fuel to the fire? Well my friend turned the other cheek through her reply message and the “unfriending.” However, just because the situation was put to rest doesn’t mean I was able to get my peace of mind. That’s why I am writing this. So I get a peace of mind from the words my friend told me. If I don’t, it will bother me for a long time.

Like I said before, everyone is entitled to their own opinion about a person. We are all judgmental. There is no point towards being fake and trying to hide it. We all have skeletons in our closet, and I am pretty sure at one point in our lives, we have hurt others with our words. I know I have. I mean, this guy has a negative opinion of me, possibly because I honestly told him what I think about his crush on my friend.

Furthermore, he is right to a certain degree that I may not be smart at somethings. I can recall some moments in my life where I made mistakes or acted foolish. (The guy wrote a reply message back to my friend in regards to the “unfriending.” He didn’t mean that I wasn’t book smart. He was referring that I am not street smart.) Well I just want to make a comment that this guy should have clarified what he means because what he said in the first place makes it sound like I’m completely stupid. Furthermore, his reply message didn’t really help his case, and I am not going to explain that to you all because I think it is pointless to do so.

I feel a little bit better now after writing out my thoughts about this situation. I don’t usually write personal things on my blog, but it is a nice change of pace. Plus, you get a glimpse at what goes on in my life and the thoughts that are inside my head. So thank you for reading. I finally have some peace of mind.

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15 comments

  1. He’s rude and insensitive and lame. If a guy’s going to say unflattering things about you, to try and make an impression on someone, he should at least use good grammar and spelling. I say he’s lame because he accuses you of being an intellectual lightweight while acting like one. He doesn’t believe a word he’s written. That makes him untrustworthy and you should roll your eyes at him. Venting here is good, and don’t allow people to make you feel bad about yourself. You should hear what my “friends” have said to me. I could dedicate a blog to the sewage that spews from their brains. Believe in yourself and have a great Sunday. x

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    1. Thank you for the encouragement and thoughtful words. Trust me, I did roll my eyes when I heard these words. And yes, venting is a good stress reliever 😀

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  2. I don’t think you should take this guy seriously when he can’t form a proper sentence. Also, the mean things people say about others are usually a reflection of their own problems (“What Susie says of Sally says more about Susie than of Sally.”), so I hope his comment won’t bother you anymore in the near future! x

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  3. I.cant.stop.laughing.at.his.terrible.message. (gramma nazi inside of me is flipping this computer in my head @_@)! And hold on…this dude must be blind because last time I checked #chibimonkeyhybrids were off the smokin charts! :0 #senapiisawesome and you a rappa, how you not street smart 😛 IS THIS WHY YOURE NOT ON BC I WILL GO VANDALIZE HIS FB

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  4. And peace of mind deserved, hot damn, this is such a burn on him (even though he probably won’t read it cause you’re hiding with all the right people here on WordPress, wink wink). I think it’s quite healthy to reexamine and reevaluate yourself in times like this, whether he meant good or bad, clearly the latter, however. It gives you the chance to look in the mirror and think, ” I’m not a robot, and I do have meaning and intellect.” Besides, this nut job of a guy can’t even rant properly. Terrible grammar and he forgot the emojis.
    Good for you and good riddance to him! *drops mic*

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  5. Wow, I am sorry to hear that happen. People only seem to look at want is on the surface and what reinforces their preconceived notions. You seem like an intelligent and cool person so I am glad those comment didn’t put you down.

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